When is it best to conform to the wishes or rules of others? What problems are avoided when people conform? What new problems does conformity create?

I feel that there is no reason for why a person would only conform with someone just because they want to. There has to be something that they obtain or something that can affect them directly for that person to conform to something whether it may be positive or negative. An example of this would be in “The Handmaid’s Tail”, when Offred is told by Serena Joy, “I want to see as little of you as possible, she said. I expect you feel the same way about me”. Serena is not making an offer but instead making a demand that she expects to be followed. Offred, the main character, must conform with what she is told as Serena has power over her being the wife of the commander. If she does not conform than she could be punished and sent somewhere unknown to Offred but certain to be bad. So I think that the best time to conform to something is when it can affect you negatively or is to your benefit to comply. I feel like this can be placed into many aspects as it could also connect with a student who is doing badly in school. He or she may not want to put any work effort in their school work, but this could mean that if they do not conform with the work given to them, then they could ultimately end up failing a class and even a grade level. In addition, one must conform with things that may not favor us, but are for the good of that person whether or not they might see it. In Offred’s situation, she was able to avoid many problems like being sent to an unknown place where they could be punished or even killed in a society like this. Conforming could also lead to a different problem where if she conforms with a demand by Serena she could be breaking the law and face a bigger punishment. So one must conform when conforming is for you own good and will have more positive than negative.